Sex Talk

It’s strange to think that people can start a new relationship and have no problem with having sex right away, but yet, these same people find it sort of taboo to actually discuss their sexual history with their new partner prior to taking such a huge step. I know it happens all the time.

Wake up, wake up, it’s 2009. You have to be able to engage in a conversation about sex with your partner or partners, whatever the case may be. HIV/AIDS is real. STD’s (STI’s) are real. So with that said, I have compiled five questions that you should ask your partner before engaging in any sexual activities. Here we go.

1. How many sex partners have you had in the past? How many sex partners have you had in the past year?

2. Have you ever been treated for a STD (STI)?

3. Have you ever had unprotected sex?

4. When was the last time you took an HIV test?

5. Last, but most importantly, find out if you and your partner are seeking the same thing out of the relationship. If you are looking for a monogamous relationship, ask your partner if he is looking for a monogamous relationship as well. If he is just looking for a “friend,” (*meaning a friend with benefits*) then you need to be aware of this.

Now, I am not stupid and you are not stupid either, so be aware that some lying may be involve. Your partner may not be completely honest with his answers. Pay attention to his body language. Check for a smirk on his face and if he starts stuttering, then you can suspect that something may be up. But at the end of the day, it’s important that you ask these questions to help you determine if you want to take the relationship to the next level. No one is going to look out for you like you. Be smart! And if you decide to go to the next level, make sure you use a condom.

*By the way, just know that since you want to discuss you partner’s sexual history, he may just want to discuss yours as well. Watch your body language ladies! Lol!